The Value of Human Connection
It’s easy to take our connection with other human beings for granted, if we have it, or to dismiss its importance if we lack that sense of connection. Life is noisy, chaotic and demanding. We can be so busy that we neglect to notice and appreciate the people closest to us.
There are also times when we may not be completely in a spirit of all-encompassing love or anything close to that. At those times we may feel something like this: “Bah! Humbug! Who needs human beings? They are annoying pests!” (If you have never caught yourself thinking such a thing, congratulations and well done.)
Many people find animals easier to relate to that to our own species. Why might that be?
What is it that makes connecting with other people important to us?
What gets in the way of our connection, and what can be done about that?
Since animals are generally less judgmental than human beings, their company can be less demanding. Still, most of us wish for connection with our own species even if we have close animal companions.
As social beings, we can see ourselves reflected in the eyes of people we love. We can feel nourished and healed by fully knowing the people we are close to and being known by them, flaws and all. Love and acceptance are balm to weary souls.
Why would we ever forget or be distracted from the delight and necessity warm human connection?
Painful and shocking experiences can cause us to withdraw from life, including other people. Upsets and misunderstandings can cause our affection to be dimmed or even extinguished. The universal human desire to be right can interfere with our ability to see, hear, and understand other people.
Once our affection and our ability to perceive and understand our fellow humans has become muddied, we easily pile up more instances of their transgressions against us and avoid looking at our own mistakes. When we catch ourselves cataloging the errors and faults of other people while justifying our own actions to ourselves, it is time to do some work!
Traumatic events, upsets, problems, confusions and misunderstandings all respond well to the techniques of Applied Metapsychology. However thick and heavy the emotional charge may be, we can peel it away by using these techniques. Practitioners of this subject see it every day all over the world; as their clients do the work, love rebounds. Love, respect, interest, and understanding come back to life as past upsets, traumas, and misunderstandings are resolved.
Once again we can take pleasure in our connection with family, friends, people we work with, neighbors, and people we share interests with. Simple daily interactions can give a sense of satisfaction and community, and precious times with our loved ones become comforting again.
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